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Paul mentioned an issue with Tweetdeck at work, and it made me think about bloggers ‘doing what they do’ during their ‘day jobs’.  I’m not saying Paul’s doing or not doing just that…it just made me think.

It’s getting more common, people doing things at work that fall in a grey area.

If you’re a blogger at your day job, do you have the right to use work time for your personal or professional pursuits?

It’s an ethical and moral thing to consider as bloggers, something I don’t and haven’t seen too much of in the last three years of my peers.  Read the rest of this entry »

This year there are six days of Christmas in our home. Thanksgiving night has always been the time that the tree and decorations were brought out to be sorted.

The youngest C

Yesterday morning was this year’s starting point to celebrating the holidays with my children. Only one line of lights needing to be thrown out, and two thin walled glass ornaments busted into shards in the bottom of one of the boxes. Chances are those were the remains from a few years ago, nothing ever seeming to be thrown out being the normal find recently throughout the home.

The living room and dining room are connected in my home, as are many apartments. The upright freezer was unplugged and moved to the kitchen. It had overtaken the dining area for two years, creating problems getting in and out of the table area. The doorway to the kitchen being so tight, the only way to get it through was to literally break off it’s cheap plastic handle.

Two years taking over the meal space, because of a piece of plastic.

After removing the table to the living room, the carpet was thoroughly vacuumed, since moving in years ago. The boxes were brought over, and begun the task of fluffing the branches of the tree.

It would be a day and a half until they’d be dropped off with their mother. Until then they would have their tree. They would hear the sound of the music as it chimed carols from the lights dancing in the branches. I’d leave to go outside on the porch for a cigarette to keep my tears being seen.

Then there was my daughter’s mentor that called. She never called the entire month after my children were taken. She said my wife gave her the number and asked if she could speak to my daughter, to ask what she should get her for Christmas.

I told her that I had to report this to the court. That it wasn’t appropriate for her to call during a visitation. She replied that she wouldn’t be possibly able to get a gift for my son or daughter, based on MY actions.

Lack of planning on your part doesn’t constitute an emergency on mine.

The first time of doing anything with my children, and someone who has access and contact with their mother…as well as at their school…think happy thoughts, happy thoughts.

My wife chose to create a safety net, which this woman is/was a part of. She actually employed my wife in her business recently. My wife’s phone was disconnected, yet she has the ability to call her…but isn’t involved…and failed prior over the last month to ask my daughter what she wanted.  Wife’s old phone disconnected, a new unlocked phone she ‘just got off the phone with her’.

Yeah, you’re really impartial and there for the kids, lady.

She said in closing, with an attitude, that she wouldn’t call. I didn’t soften the blow any. I don’t care, and it’s my right to be selfish when it’s ‘us’ time.

Under the a current judge’s order, it’s an act of contempt to communicate to my wife or through other people to her. Likewise in the opposite direction. With her having custody at the moment, I feel it unethical and immoral for me to have the children involved in anything other than what her wishes are, in regards to healthcare or other children’s services.

It’s also unfair for anyone to consider me being involved out of ‘convenience’ to their schedule when it suits their needs, when otherwise they’d say I have no right and it’s an act of legal contempt of court.

…and it’s a mistake to ever interupt my plans or distract my children from the task of decorating their Christmas tree, when they don’t have one where they live when not here.

For now, they do…and always will here.